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By Liz Glover Wilson

My sister-in-law and I recently had a conversation about how it is so common for people to have ideas, dreams and goals - that they never finish. Sound familiar?

Maybe it's the book that you've been writing 'in your head' for years or the dream vacation you still have 'not gotten to yet' or . . cleaning the basement 'one day.'  Then there are the 'almost done' projects. Maybe it's the book you wrote, but now just feel 'frozen' and can't get to the next steps. 

There are so many reasons we don't - we can't - we won't. We don't have enought time, skill, money or support. We might even think about these ideas, dreams and goals with heaviness; feeling regret, frustration and/or sadness for not acheiving. Our ego suffers.

Did you know you can change your narrative? 

Start identifying what is really important for you to acheive - do some real inside work and be honest with yourself
(let things go)

Start laying out a plan and setting goals for those things you identified
(set realistic goals)

Start your journey and be kind to yourself 
(set-backs and disappointments are not avoidable)

Finish 

and now here is the most important thing . . .

Start exploring what it feels like to not be attached to the outcome
(experience the moment of completion) 

So maybe your book wasn't picked up by a publisher, but your best friend loved it. Maybe it took four months to clean your basement and your brother just moved in and it is full to the ceiling again (true story for me)!

Start finding your way to being content.
Content to dream.
Content to explore.
Content to let go.
Content to start.
Content to finish.
Content in whatever the outcome may be. 

In Eastern religions, non-attachment is virturous. For the Buddhist,  non-attachment is ultimately about realizing the truth of yourself. 

Here is the truth, we don't start or finish many things because new attachments are scarey. So to learn how to let go of the ouctome, would mean to realize how important it is to live 'in and with' the natural flow of things and respect the impermanence of all life.

This doesn't mean you stop caring about what you do and the results. On the contrary, you appreciate them so much more because you're ever-aware of that they won't last forever.

 "He who is attached to things will suffer much . . .a contented man is rarely disappointed"
Tao Te Ching

Namaste.
Liz